Wednesday, March 25, 2015

Remember You Will Know!

This post first appeared on July 22, 2013

You display your integrity by what you do when no one is watching.

I read an article recently and came across an interesting question – “Are you unhappy because everywhere you go you take yourself with you?" 
I talk to unhappy people everyday. They don’t like their jobs, their co-workers, their neighbors or

Monday, March 23, 2015

Your Thoughts Create Your Life

Change your mind, and you will change your life!

I recently watched a PBS pledge show featuring Dr. Christiane Northrup. She's a favorite of mine because of her attitude toward aging.  In her presentation, she mentioned studies done by Ellen Langer, someone I'd not heard of before...but the information was fascinating.

Excuse me for being thrilled, but Ellen Langer is my new favorite person. Do you know the feeling when you have a belief that so many people don't share, and then you find someone who confirms what you've believed for so long? If you've never experienced that feeling, trust me, it's a real RUSH!

Langer, a psychology professor at Harvard, has done mountains of research on mindfulness vs. mindlessness. Being in the now vs. one's mind being somewhere else at any given time. Her research has indicated, time after time, that where your mind goes, your body follows. If you believe you're coming down with a cold, your mind follows that thought and the cold appears. If you believe you're old, then your body follows with age-related aches and pains. If you believe you have an illness that must be treated indefinitely with medication, your body follows that thought as well.

Here is a youtube video of Langer titled "Mindfulness Over Matter". It just might be the best 22 minutes you've ever spent.

Mindfulness Over Matter



Friday, March 20, 2015

It’s All In The Interpretation!

                                           Your interpretations create your world.

My husband and I were talking about a mutual acquaintance he had run into at the store. Then my husband said what a great guy this person was. I stopped what I was doing and laughed. We couldn’t possibly be talking about the same person. This is a man who never speaks to me or even acknowledges my presence.  I find him rude and my husband finds him friendly. I find him

Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Can't vs. Won't

                  Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re probably right.

                                                 ~~   Henry Ford

I had my second session with Brett, my personal trainer (okay, he’s not really mine, but he was assigned to me for my first few workout sessions when I joined the gym. I thought I was serius about exercise, but he brought new meaning to the word.

At the first machine, I did reps until I thought my arms were going to fall off.  Just when I thought I

Monday, March 16, 2015

Wave Goodbye to the Guilt Train

           The sense of inferiority and the sense of guilt are exceedingly difficult to distinguish.

                                                                   ~~Sigmund Freud

We all feel guilty every now and then. It's a natural response, and it’s appropriate when you do something that goes against your values.  Your conscience makes you feel uncomfortable when you disobey rules that you believe you should obey. But remember, guilt implies choice.

That’s where unhealthy guilt comes in. Unhealthy guilt often rears its ugly head when your self-

Friday, February 6, 2015

Unconventional Aging Again

It is not how old you are but how you are old.  ~~ Marie Dressler

For my 60th birthday, my friend sent me a card. On the front was a picture of an older woman gleefully propelling herself along on a tricycle, and on the inside was the Marie Dressler quote above. For those of you who have never heard of Marie Dressler, she was an actress born in 1868  who started in vaudeville, moved into silent films and eventually won an Oscar...yes the Oscar's have been around that long.

I imagine I would have been an admirer of Marie Dressler had she still been alive when I was born. In an age of beautiful movie stars (not much different than today), she was rather plain and frumpy. But that never stopped her from getting into show business and making it all the way to the top.

So, on your next birthday, especially if you're feeling trepidation about getting older, shake it off. Age is a gift to be embraced, and it truly has little to do with the number but in how you perceive it.



Wednesday, February 4, 2015

More Unconventional Aging

I never think about what I can't do. ~~ Tao Porchon-Lynch

Meet Tao Porchon-Lynch. She is a spry 96-years-young yoga teacher...the oldest yoga teacher on record.

Tao has been teaching yoga for decades and, not surprisingly, is strong and flexible. When yoga didn't keep her busy enough, she decided to take up ballroom dancing. Who does this in their 90's you ask...only someone who embraces life everyday and doesn't let herself be bothered with what others may think a woman of 96 should be doing.

Since my 40th birthday, when I realized I had to change my lifestyle, I have believed that  being active is one of the best things a person can do to stay young. That's when I started running and going to the gym. Although 40 is just a spec in the rearview mirror of my life, I make it a point to exercise every morning. It's no more of a chore for me than brushing my teeth.

Here is a link so you can see for yourself what 96 can look like. It's never too late to start improving your life.

Yoga Master Tao Porchon-Lynch



Monday, February 2, 2015

Unconventioinal Aging

I think we can win over all our adversities with love.   ~~Edythe Kirchmaier

I'm friends with a most remarkable woman...well not real friends...just Facebook friends. Her name is Edythe Kirchmaier. She is always cheerful and giving of herself, spending many hours volunteering for an organization called Direct Relief in California. She's been a guest on the Jay Leno Show as well as Ellen and Oprah. 

I haven't been in a fan club since the Beatles burst on the scene in the 60's, although I do admit to a "cougar-crush" on Bruno Mars, but I am certainly a huge fan of Edythe and want to model myself after her. You see, Edythe just turned 107. She got her driver's license renewed at age 105 which earned her a visit to Jay Leno, Oprah and Ellen; and she volunteers regularly at Direct Relief.

To learn more about this amazing woman, follow the link below:

Edythe on Oprah's Super Soul Sunday Series

Age is just a number, it's your take on life that makes all the difference, after all...



Friday, January 30, 2015

Fred Korematsu Day

If you have the feeling that something is wrong, don't be afraid to speak up.

~~Fred Korematsu

We've all heard of ordinary people who have made their mark on the world by some courageous act. Martin Luther King, Jr. who was an equal rights advocate, Rosa Parks who refused to sit in the back of the bus...but Fred Korematsu? Who the heck was he?

Today is Fred Korematsu Day. An everyday ordinary man who questioned the government's authority to send Japanese-Americans to internment camps during World War II, Fred was born in the United States, educated here and spent his entire life in the U.S., yet when war broke out, he was forced into an internment camp because of his Japanese ancestry. His family, along with many others, lost, belongings, established family and social networks...all because of their heritage.

Fred had the courage to sue the government, and his case went all the way to the Supreme Court, where he lost his battle. Then 40 years later, new evidence was found showing Charles Fahy, Solicitor General of the United States, had deliberately suppressed evidence from the FBI showing that Japanese-Americans posed no security threat. To learn more about how the Fred Korematsu story ends, follow this link:

Fred Korematsu Story



Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Win One For YOU!

This post first appeared in It's All In Your Head on June 24, 2013

Do something today that your future self will thank you for. That is true success.

If someone has never experienced success, they have little chance of developing a habit of success because they don't know what success feels like. Instead, they're only too well acquainted with the frustration of feelings of failure. This is why it's so important to put children in situations where they will they will know at an early age what it feels like to be a winner.

You've all experienced success in your life, but maybe you don't feel like it's a habit. So, how can you acquire your own habit of success? The answer is the same--set yourself up for success in everything you do. Arrange things so you can succeed. Nothing is too small. Being successful doing small things builds an atmosphere of success that you will carry with you into more challenging situations. One success is built upon another.

The key is to be gradual. If you start an exercise program, don't aim to evercise for one hour every day at the start. You'll be setting yourself up for failure. If you decide to return to school, don't take a full load of classes the first semester. You'll be setting yourself up for failure. If you want to change your spending habits, don't cut out all extraneous spending at once. You'll be setting yourself up for failure. The idea shouldn't be "how fast can I do this", it should be "how can I succeed". The principle is to start at a level that guarantees your success and then gradually take on more difficult tasks.

The more times you succeed, the more confidence you build. And the more confidence  you have, the easier it will be for you to continue to succeed.

~~Weekly Challenge~~
Think of a situation where you tried and failed. Was it because you took on too much all at once? Could you have started smaller and been successful? If so, rethink how you can take this same situation, break it down into smaller steps that you will be successful in accomplishing, and carry it to a successful conclusion.

Notice how each success makes you want to move on to the next step. In no time at all, you'll be at the top.



Monday, January 19, 2015

I Have A Dream

In the end we'll remember not the words of our enemies but the silence of our friends.


Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Friday, January 9, 2015

Help Is Just A Hotline Away

This post first appeared in It's All In Your Head on September 2, 2013.

As a counselor, I have access to referral sites where I can direct others in times of crisis. However, none are as powerful as these "Holy Hotlines" I found posted on Facebook. I

Wednesday, January 7, 2015

I Resolve...

Permission Granted

Well, we're into the first full week of 2015, and I'm just are you doing on your New Year's Resolution?  Did you make one? Was it specific or general? Was it

Monday, January 5, 2015

Set Your Sails

     The same wind blows on us all. Where we arrive is determined by the set of our sails.

~~Jim Rohn

The Same Wind Blows On Us All by Jim Rohn.

I sometimes find myself making excuses when things don't work out the way I thought they would. Usually the blame goes to something external...someone dropping the ball (not me of