Believing in yourself is an endless destination. Believing you have failed is the end of the journey.
As a career counselor and coach, and the instructor of a college-level career planning class, I’ve worked with a myriad of people over the years. Each brings some bit of uniqueness to our sessions. But one thing I see quite often is a lack of confidence, a pre-conceived notion that the job search will be lengthy and they will be the most insignificant and unqualified person looking.
One thing I know for sure is that a lack of confidence is not an asset. Imagine this conversation between an employer and a prospective employee. “Hello, I’m Jane Doe and I’m here about the opening.” “Hello Jane. Tell me a little about yourself.” “Well, I really need a job, but I’m certain that I’m not the best candidate. You see, I have few skills, no confidence in myself, and I’m not sure I can handle the job. In fact, I’m so sorry to have wasted your time.”
Sound far-fetched? I assure you this is the thought running through the minds of many of my clients and students. While we all inhabit the same planet, we all live in a different world… one based on how we see things. Those who believe nothing good ever happens to them likely live in a world of lack, while those who believe in their own abilities and feel empowered probably live in a world of abundance.
If there is one thing I try to impress on others it’s that we are what we think. Think positive nurturing thoughts, and you project an image of confidence. Think negative demeaning thoughts, and your image is just the opposite. This doesn’t mean that we must be like “Susie Sunshine” without a care in the world, oblivious to reality. People can hold a positive world-view and still realize that everything is not rosy. But consistently filling your head with as many negative images as you can find coupled with a steady diet of believing the worst of yourself and others generates a lethal toxic cocktail in your brain that floods your body with poison. Does anyone seriously believe that’s helpful?
Positive or negative...which do you choose? I hope you choose wisely.
It IS All In Your Head!