Believing in yourself is an endless destination. Believing you have failed is the end of the journey.
~~Sarah Meredith
As a career counselor and coach, and the instructor of a college-level career planning class, I’ve worked with a myriad of people over the years. Each brings some bit of uniqueness to our sessions. But one thing I see quite often is a lack of confidence, a pre-conceived notion that the job search will be lengthy and they will be the most insignificant and unqualified person looking.
One thing I know for sure is that a lack of confidence
is not an asset. Imagine this
conversation between an employer and a prospective employee. “Hello, I’m Jane Doe and I’m here about the
opening.” “Hello Jane. Tell me a little about yourself.” “Well, I really need a job, but I’m certain
that I’m not the best candidate. You
see, I have few skills, no confidence in myself, and I’m not sure I can handle
the job. In fact, I’m so sorry to have
wasted your time.”
Sound far-fetched? I assure you this is the
thought running through the minds of many of my clients and students. While we all inhabit the same
planet, we all live in a different world… one based on how we see
things. Those who believe nothing good
ever happens to them likely live in a world of lack, while those who believe in
their own abilities and feel empowered probably live in a world of abundance.
If there is one thing I try to impress on others it’s that
we are what we think. Think positive
nurturing thoughts, and you project an image of confidence. Think negative demeaning thoughts, and your
image is just the opposite. This doesn’t
mean that we must be like “Susie Sunshine” without a care in the world,
oblivious to reality. People can hold a
positive world-view and still realize that everything is not rosy. But consistently filling your head with as
many negative images as you can find coupled with a steady diet of believing the worst of
yourself and others generates a lethal toxic cocktail in your brain that
floods your body with poison. Does
anyone seriously believe that’s helpful?
Positive or negative...which do you choose? I hope you choose wisely.
It IS All In Your Head!
Cindy
cakozak88@gmail.com