This is about exercise, but please don’t stop reading yet. Exercise is the activity we find most difficult to integrate into our lives, so I’m sure many of you will just dismiss this information with a “That’s nice, but I don’t have time” attitude.
Friday, June 28, 2013
Wednesday, June 26, 2013
Are you a spender or an investor? I’m not talking about finances
here – this is something infinitely more precious. I’m talking about
your time. Time is a resource that isn’t renewable once it’s gone.
You can’t barter with a colleague to get more time. You can’t drive
Monday, June 24, 2013
If someone has never experienced success, they have little chance of developing a habit of success because they don't
know what success feels like. Instead, they're only too well acquainted with the
frustration of feelings of failure. This is why it's so important to put children in situations where they
will succeed...so they will know at an early age what it feels like to be a winner.
Thursday, June 20, 2013
Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
Our brains are always turned on—even when we’re sleeping. We’re always giving ourselves feedback or self-talk. And that self-talk comes from 2 different voices in our head – our spirit which
Tuesday, June 18, 2013
Sunday, June 16, 2013
Today is Fathers Day so for all you dads out there – have a great day.
My father died in 1970 just before his 53rd birthday. I hadn’t spoken to him for 5 years prior to that because I hated him. (Harsh words, but all too true for me at the time) He was an alcoholic who was mean when he was drinking, and I finally decided I’d had enough of the yoyo cycle of anger and forgiveness. So I chose to stay in anger mode...even after he died.
I wasn’t sorry he was gone. It made my life easier because it was one less thing to deal with. But after many years of soul-searching and self-examination, I have come to terms with our relationship. While I know nothing of his life as a child, I believe that my grandparents factored heavily into who my father was because they were not warm and loving to any of their children. So I think my father gave my brother and me what he knew how to give – which wasn’t much. I believe he had his own demons chasing him and that he gave us the best he could based on what he had been taught.
I forgave him years ago because I needed to free myself. And I often wish he were alive today because I would love to know what went on in his life to make him who he was. Our relationship today would be much better, I just know it.
So to those of you who have loving relationships with your fathers, congratulations. Take this day to honor them. And for any of you whose relationships are built on fear, distrust, and hate, believe that you can work through the bitterness and find peace. Forgiving doesn’t mean condoning what someone has done. Forgiving doesn’t even mean that you have to let the other person know that you forgive them. It means that you push the hatred out of your own heart, and you do it for your own inner peace so that you can be a better person.
So today, honor your father. And if your relationship was similar to mine, believe that if he knew better, he would have done better.
Forgive someone in your life who has caused you pain. If you’re not sure how to start, write them a letter telling them exactly how you feel. Let your heart spill out on to the page.
When you’re done, re-read the letter. If you choose, go ahead and mail it, knowing that you will be opening the door to more pain until all the issues are resolved. If you choose not to mail it, tear it up and throw it away.
Either way, you will have made a start to clear bitterness from your heart.
Friday, June 14, 2013
Wednesday, June 12, 2013
"What you get by achieving your goals is not as important
as what you become by achieving your goals"
~~Henry David Thoreau
I was watching "My Cousin Vinnie", which still cracks me up even after seeing it for the umpteenth
time. One scene that sticks in my mind is when the characters' car is stuck in the mud. They try
rocking it and flooring it, but it just sinks deeper. It occurred to me that sometimes life is like
that...we're spinning our wheels and going nowhere. We work so hard and so long on something
Monday, June 10, 2013
~~Peter F. Drucker
Communication is more than words. In fact, 93% of communication is non-verbal and only 7% the words you speak. Here are some tips to bolster your non-verbal message.
"So what does posture have to do with someone listening to what I have to say?” you might be asking yourself. But think about it. When someone is slouched over, how likely are you to pay attention? After all, if they thought their words were important, wouldn’t they present themselves in that manner?
Standing up straight and tall, just like mom told you to do when you were a kid, makes a difference. Someone who carries themselves with confidence makes a statement even before they open their mouth.
2. Eye Contact
Have you ever tried to talk to someone who would not look you in the eyes? Frustrating isn’t it? When you have something to say, it’s important, and there is someone out there who needs to hear it. Making eye contact conveys a feeling of “I believe in what I say, and I believe my words will be of use to you.”
3. Vocal Variety
I remember a professor I had years ago. When he spoke, the tone of his voice never changed. Needless to say, the class was a real snoozer. Even when you’re not speaking formally to a group, it’s a good idea to vary the tone of your voice to keep people interested. If you’re not sure now to do this, start paying attention to people on television. One person who I think does a terrific job with vocal variety is Keith Morrison who often narrates segments of Dateline NBC which can be found on youtube.com
4. Facial Expression
The next time you’re in the bathroom shaving or putting on your makeup, have a conversation with yourself in the mirror. We all talk to ourselves anyway, so put these little talks to good use. Watch your face. Can you determine if you’re happy, angry, or just plain disinterested? When you are talking to someone, they are reading your face even more than listening to your words, so facial expression is an important part of communication.
It’s not necessary to dazzle people with words they need to look up in the dictionary. It is a good idea to become aware of your speaking vocabulary. Make a tape of yourself speaking casually. Now count the number of times you use words and phrases such as “like”, “awesome”, “you know”, “kind of” and other colloquialisms. You might want to break the habit and clean up your vocabulary.
We all want to be heard and understood. Practicing these 5 simple tips, will help you get your message across and make yourself heard.
Friday, June 7, 2013
dead by midnight. Extend them all the care, kindness and understanding you can
muster. Your life will never be the same again."
Have you ever noticed that people don’t seem very friendly anymore? We seem so consumed by our To Do Lists that we don’t take time to look around us. I noticed it last week while I was grocery shopping. People were pushing their carts, searching the shelves for bargains, glancing at their
Monday, June 3, 2013
improve themselves. They therefore remain bound."
I speak to so many people who seem to want more from life. They have dreams and goals to
accomplish, yet so few of them actually get started. They never develop a plan to reach their
dreams or list the steps to reach their goals. Why? Because they get mired down thinking about